April 29, 2019
In recent conversations about marriage Carmen has been join by
to talk about everything from spiritual warfare to joy.
Today, Dr. Linda Mintle surveys the damaging reality of contempt.
For couples who have committed to love and to cherish one another through good times and bad, the very idea that the relationship could devolve to the point of contempt seems unimaginable. And yet, contempt is exactly the state of many relationships today. Political adversaries hold one another in contempt and so too do some couples. Good, healthy relationships are characterized by at least a 5 to 1 positive to negative ratio of communication. Contemptuous relationships are characterized by nearly constant negativity and conflict. Mocking, eye-rolling, defensive body language, disrespect, devaluing comments. You’ve seen it and my guess is, you’ve experienced it from someone at some point in your life. But in marriage it’s deadly.
Once one partner holds the other in contempt, it takes real work to turn things around. You literally have to shift the relationship into a different mode – recovery the love, listen, value the other and stay positive. You can rebuild an atmosphere of appreciation and respect but its not easy!
Dr. David Aikman surveys headlines from around the world:
- Russia-North Korea summit
- Northern Ireland
- China Belt & Road
(here he recommends Michael Pillsbury’s The 100 Year Marathon)